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Genteel Poverty

1/11/2015

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When I was growing up, I heard a term, “Genteel Poverty,” that conjured up images of formerly wealthy old people who maintained their refined attitudes, even though their wealth was gone. I was an avid reader of good literature, and I found many of these people reflected in my books. This is probably where I heard the term. I was so impressed with this term that it has stuck with me all of my life.

Now that I have had a “reversal of fortune,” I like to think that I am in genteel poverty, although I have never been wealthy. I maintain that even though I am poor, I can behave in a mannerly fashion and let my education and basically kind attitude prevail. I want to be around other genteel people who might or might not actually be in a poverty situation.

Alas, I am now living in the sordid underbelly of poverty and I do not like it. I want genteel poverty! So many “poor” people around me are not just poor in funds, but also in civility, kindness, simple manners, and good taste. They are angry and greedy. Many get everything free and want even more. It is not enough. They have better cell phones than I do; several have newer cars than I do; and many probably eat better than I do, because of food stamps and a free monthly food delivery from the government. With all the generosity they receive, you would think that they would be appreciative. Not so.

I admit, I do not know their history. I do not know how they got to this place. Maybe they have always lived in poverty and chose not to leave. I know some got here the same I did, through illness. But I do find that there are many who have no dignity, and therefore, are not genteel, in my opinion. And let me be clear, race does not enter into it. These people are poor in spirit, and I do not think you can be genteel in that state. I might be wrong, but that is my impression.

At this time in my life, I cannot really help anyone, so I have chosen to leave this underbelly and find a place more suitable to my impression of old age. It should have at least a smidgen of this genteel poverty that I practice and I want. It also should have less greedy and more generous souls residing there. When I find this place, I will be among people that make me comfortable and secure. I will have arrived at that genteel status, albeit a poor one.

 

9 Comments
Alex
3/24/2018 02:36:56 pm

Wow writer, you clearly live in a bubble. Having worked with the poor many years I can tell you that there are many reasons such as hidden disabilities, lack of adequate transportation and child care, racism/sexism/classism, which keep many folks mired in poverty. Some poor people are stricken by fear of being ostracized by the only friends and family they have ever known if the push to succeed. Clearly, there is something lacking on your part because as a retired teacher, you should have a pension and social security - not so hard to live comfortably in those even with zero savings. You also have skills that make it easy to become reemployed. So, take a step back and look in the mirror before you throw stones at others who have not had your chances.

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Peggy Gamble
3/24/2018 03:03:10 pm

You obviously did not read the whole post, especially the beginning. I am now old and poor now (never wealthy but gainfully employed most of my life), but I hope I am at least genteel. I have looked up genteel poverty for you since you obviously did not. Being genteel is a matter of mind and action- not wealth.

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Peggy Anne Gamble
1/7/2021 10:00:31 am

I am 74, walk with a cane, have all kinds of health problems, i.e., high blood pressure and high cholesterol, thyroid problems, for a few.,

Kim
12/16/2019 02:10:03 am

This comment is an example of the lack gentility the author is talking about. She seems wise and kind and it’s honestly an embarrassment to hear someone addressing an elder in this manner.

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Peggy Anne Gamble
1/7/2021 09:58:30 am

Thank you, Kim.

MGF
12/8/2020 07:44:27 am

Alex,

Yes, I must agree with the first two responses but the first response to your reply hit the nail on the head.... "You missed the entire message the author expressed".

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Peggy Anne Gamble link
12/8/2020 11:25:18 am

no pension - very little social security. Things happen and have consequences.

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Sarah Scott
1/6/2021 11:32:24 pm

I think it is so beautifully written you could clearly gain employment from writing. It is reminiscent of bygone authors. Interesting and delicate. Brilliant.

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Peggy Anne Gamble link
1/7/2021 09:57:19 am

Thank for your kind words. I write a blog expressing my opinions, hopes, and dreams. I am not trying to woo anyone over to my side. It is an outlet for me to vent or reminisce

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