The news has generated a lot of fodder for comment lately. One is the evidence of wife-beating by NFL players. Of course, this is called domestic abuse - a euphemism for what it is – beating of a wife. Abuse sounds better than beating.
A man who uses his fist to “cold cock” his wife in an elevator and drags her out through it doors is an abuser. And even if this is the first time he has been seen doing this, I would imagine it is not the first time it has happened. And unfortunately, it will probably not be the last.
I cannot understand the “standing by your man” attitude circulated by fans. Don’t these people know that an abused woman usually does not accept that it is wrong for her husband to beat her? She is told that it is her fault and she will undoubtedly say he is a good man. Abused women rarely leave these men no matter how vicious the husband is.
A pro football player is a very large and strong man – he has to be to survive his career. Why would he think that it is OK to treat a woman with the full force of his strength? Because he is an abuser – and it will take more than a little counseling to fix the problem.
Another issue is with the NFL again – the player who whipped his child with a switch. Again, I am concerned that a huge, powerfully strong man would hit his child in anger and use the excuse that is it acceptable discipline or even that he is spanking the child. I have been spanked, I have been whipped, and I have been beaten – I know the difference. A spanking usually involves a couple of “hits” with an open palm on the offending child’s butt – not really to hurt but to make a point. A beating or whipping takes place when a belt, switch, bat, hammer, fist, or some other device is used. If you hit with something other than your open hand, you are beating or whipping, not spanking.
The excuse that it was done to you when you were a child and you turned out OK is not justified. Just because you were beaten, it does not give you permission to do the same. You are abusing your child just as you were abused, no matter what you call it.
I think it is disturbing that if one of these players “hit” another player in a game with the force that they used for their victims, it would be called unspeakable and the offending player would be punished. However, if one these players “hits” a wife or child it seems the public thinks it is OK. We really have not come all that far in history if a man or woman can beat a child or a man can beat a woman and it is OK. This is such a sad state of affairs.
A man who uses his fist to “cold cock” his wife in an elevator and drags her out through it doors is an abuser. And even if this is the first time he has been seen doing this, I would imagine it is not the first time it has happened. And unfortunately, it will probably not be the last.
I cannot understand the “standing by your man” attitude circulated by fans. Don’t these people know that an abused woman usually does not accept that it is wrong for her husband to beat her? She is told that it is her fault and she will undoubtedly say he is a good man. Abused women rarely leave these men no matter how vicious the husband is.
A pro football player is a very large and strong man – he has to be to survive his career. Why would he think that it is OK to treat a woman with the full force of his strength? Because he is an abuser – and it will take more than a little counseling to fix the problem.
Another issue is with the NFL again – the player who whipped his child with a switch. Again, I am concerned that a huge, powerfully strong man would hit his child in anger and use the excuse that is it acceptable discipline or even that he is spanking the child. I have been spanked, I have been whipped, and I have been beaten – I know the difference. A spanking usually involves a couple of “hits” with an open palm on the offending child’s butt – not really to hurt but to make a point. A beating or whipping takes place when a belt, switch, bat, hammer, fist, or some other device is used. If you hit with something other than your open hand, you are beating or whipping, not spanking.
The excuse that it was done to you when you were a child and you turned out OK is not justified. Just because you were beaten, it does not give you permission to do the same. You are abusing your child just as you were abused, no matter what you call it.
I think it is disturbing that if one of these players “hit” another player in a game with the force that they used for their victims, it would be called unspeakable and the offending player would be punished. However, if one these players “hits” a wife or child it seems the public thinks it is OK. We really have not come all that far in history if a man or woman can beat a child or a man can beat a woman and it is OK. This is such a sad state of affairs.
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