“Sometimes I don’t think it’s sickness nor being penniless that’s hardest; it’s being forgot. The worst thing about getting old is people don’t look in.” The detective who heard this thought it “was the saddest testament to age” he had ever heard.
This quote from a book I was reading (The Black Cat, by Martha Grimes) really hit home with me. Since I had no close family, I worked hard over the years to maintain friendships with all the people I knew. Even though I moved, I would come back to visit and encourage these people to visit me wherever I lived, i.e., beach, DC, etc. I realized a few years ago that I did not have as many “friends” as I thought. I had been the only one working hard to keep these friendships. When I stopped, many of the friendships stopped. Others slowly fizzled. I still have a few close friends that “remember” but as this quote says, “it’s being forgot” that really hurts when you get older. People write you off as not worth knowing any longer. And it does hurt very much to cease being valued – to be “forgot.”
This quote from a book I was reading (The Black Cat, by Martha Grimes) really hit home with me. Since I had no close family, I worked hard over the years to maintain friendships with all the people I knew. Even though I moved, I would come back to visit and encourage these people to visit me wherever I lived, i.e., beach, DC, etc. I realized a few years ago that I did not have as many “friends” as I thought. I had been the only one working hard to keep these friendships. When I stopped, many of the friendships stopped. Others slowly fizzled. I still have a few close friends that “remember” but as this quote says, “it’s being forgot” that really hurts when you get older. People write you off as not worth knowing any longer. And it does hurt very much to cease being valued – to be “forgot.”
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